Answer these apart, then swap

Why separately

Honeymoon planning happens in the middle of wedding planning, when both of you have spent months being accommodating about seating plans and flowers and somebody’s aunt. "Whatever you’d like" has become automatic by then, and it produces itineraries nobody actually chose.

Written down alone, people answer differently. That is the whole trick.

The six questions

1. Early starts. On a scale of 1 to 5, where 1 is "wake me for every drive" and 5 is "I would like to see one sunrise this trip".
2. Moving. Between "I would rather see more of the country" and "every move costs me a day", where are you?
3. Other people. Between "meeting people is part of a holiday" and "I would rather it were just us" — where are you actually, not where do you think you should be?
4. Comfort. Rank these: the bed, the bathroom, the food, the view, the guide, the wildlife, the quiet.
5. Money. Two numbers: what you think this should cost, and what you would be uncomfortable exceeding.
6. The one thing. Something you want from this trip that you have not said out loud.

Then compare

Most couples agree on four and differ on two. Nobody we have spoken to has agreed on all six, and we would be slightly suspicious of a couple who did.

Send us both sets of answers